Lovers' Lock Fence ~ Paris, France
With this approach, it sounds like emotional investment in someone you don't marry is paid back in personal growth with interaction and learning of specific characteristics you want in a guy. This part, keeps me close to that fence. I don't want several men out in the world to know the very intimate details of my life. That is reserved for my future husband. Emotional purity versus emotional investment with the return being growth as a person and as a Christian is my quandary.
I can't really judge as to whether one is more right. I do know that if I am following God and staying close to Him, I can't fail. He will give me a sense of peace about whether or not to "date" or to just enjoy the journey. I do know God won't send him to my doorstep, so I must be willing to interact and fellowship with guys and learn how I tick around them or I won't be prepared to be married to one.
As my Grandma always said, "Don't go solving a problem with a problem."